[…] In this way I have a lot of respect for the feminist bloggers I follow because they mostly eschew this model and instead they cry and get weird and tell people to fuck off about it. Other times they’re happy and normal and tell people to fuck off about it. And it’s this last step that I think is so essential. Whatever it is you’re doing should not, per se, be relational. Self-centered doesn’t have to be arrogant and unforgiving—it can be about using the self as the necessary start of all your actions, but also the necessary end. […]

: All Up in the Kitchen in My Heels: Makin’ Mac and Cheese for One

1. crying and getting weird and telling people to fuck off is all i want from the internet

2. marc has good things to say about single-ness as a lifestyle choice. shit resonates. it’s not that i’m not relational: i am, all the time, relating. but also, a defense of that dense ball of affect containing all my narcissism and self-hatred is nice to see. luv u marc.